I know I am full of excuses right now, and I know I need to stop making them.
I read a blog post about a week ago about being a victim - allowing yourself to be a victim by turning to food. The post bugged me at first...but I have thought about it so many times since I read it, and I realize it bugged me because it is true.
I am allowing myself to be a victim - a victim of my emotions and my desire to "self medicate" with food. I allow it to control me, allow it to make me feel sad and feel bad about myself - I allow it to victimize me.
I am trying to get my head right. Trying to stop being a victim.
Deep Sigh. It feels harder than it should.
I've been hoping you would check in, good news or bad. I don't know you at all, but your story inspires me, and I truly believe that you can do it! I would encourage you to try not to think of it as all or nothing. Go on a walk. Commit to a healthy breakfast. And go from there. Be kind to yourself, and patient too. If you've been off track, make a small goal for tomorrow. Once you meet it, celebrate it (share it with us!) and make another small goal to add to it.
ReplyDeleteI don't know. I have no magic formula for you. But I wanted to tell you that I'm glad you are checking in and being honest. And I think you can do this! You truly can. Peace to you.
Jessica
Thank you for checking in! I wish I had good news! Maybe just posting is a first step in the right direction.
DeleteHi Connie! As you would expect from me, I'm going to be practical and expect you to step out of the rut. Here are my ideas (which is also what I personally do): 1)Food journal every day; 2) Calorie count every day and stay within calorie limit; 3) Measure portions; 4) Drink 8 cups of water per day; 5) Exercise in a challenging way 3 times per week; and 6) Attend and be active in a weekly weight-loss meeting. It's called "the process," the little daily steps which gets any person on track and loses any person weight. If you are not doing *all* of these steps, have a serious talk with yourself about why. The "why" might be an underlying issue that you need to personally address. This is the "magic formula." Do all these steps, and the magic happens. :D
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Marion, I love your honesty and your direct, straight to the point way of saying things. You blog posts ALWAYS challenge me and make me really consider my approach and my attitude. I want you to know that even though I am CHOKING right now, your advice and your posts still make big difference to me!!
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ReplyDeleteI am so glad you are back! While I think everyone is different, I agree with Marion that for the most part there is a process that seems to work and her steps have helped me. I never really did any of those steps before.
I know the other thing I did was talk to those that are close to me about the importance of my getting healthy. I have a serious liver issue resulting from being obese so it is more or less life or death for me. I didn't want anything to interfere with my health goals.
I know you can find this magic back Connie! Keep posting!
Thanks Linda! I don't want to undo all the work I have done so far. And I 100% agree that their is a process that when followed works....I am 50 lbs. lighter for it! I don't know why I am struggling right now - I think not understanding that just bugs me! I'm going to share my thoughts here as I work to get back on track - even if they don't feel like the most inspiring!
DeleteConnie, I'm wondering if some part of you does not want to be smaller. I had that issue for many years--I felt sort of threatened by losing too much weight. When I did lose weight, I felt too vulnerable. So I gained it back, and felt much better again. Do you think you might have that issue? If so, let me know on my email, and I'll personally discuss what I know about that with you. ~Marion
DeleteHey Connie, I'm so sorry you're struggling right now. It is huge that you're 50 pounds down! Not understanding why we struggle and why we over eat in the first place is probably the main reason why yo-yo dieting is so common. Perhaps joining a group like Overeaters anonymous or TOPS would be helpful. I know that Marion goes to TOPS and she could probably tell you all the wonderful things about it. Don't accept your situation Connie. I did for way too long and missed out on so much life. You're too young to not be living the fullest life you can. Keep posting!
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ReplyDeleteI hope things are turning around! I wish I knew the perfect solution, but clearly I don't or I wouldn't be struggling so much myself. But I would say that your blog inspires me so much and I'd recommend going back and reading your past posts to re-inspire yourself!
ReplyDeleteHi Connie, just want you to know you're not the only one struggling, I know your posts always make me feel better. They are very real. I am starting to go for a walk/jog everyday, and by everyday I mean I went one time two weeks ago, two times last week, and I am hoping to go more this week lol. I have been trying to keep my lunches healthy. I drink a really bad frappuccino every morning (bad for your health, but very yummy lol) and I made the mistake of buying some nutella. You can imagine how that's going. I bought it sunday and it's almost gone and it's barely tuesday. Anyways, I agree with LBC teacher, we can't make all the changes at once when we get off the rail, make one small step and you will start to feel better about yourself, slowly but surely soon you will be just as motivated as you were before. Don't preassure yourself. Your posts help us as much as they help you. Glad you wrote another one. Remember you are valuable, no matter what, weight is just a number!
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